“If you kiss on the first date and it’s not right, then there will be no second date. Sometimes it’s better to hold out and not kiss for a long time. I am a strong believer in kissing being very intimate, and the minute you kiss, the floodgates open for everything else.” ~Jennifer Lopez

mentalloveSo, you’re looking for love. Maybe you’re newly single and just looking for something fun.  Or, you’ve been single long enough and you want something more…permanent? 

In any case, there are lots of ways to go about finding new people to date – for example,maybe you’re meeting plenty of potential dates in clubs, stores, bars, church – aka “in person” meetings. 

But if not, maybe you’re looking for love elsewhere – at work, in the neighborhood? 

Or maybe, you’re finally ready to get set up by a friend or a family member. 

Even though we’re deluged with dating ads from companies like PlentyOfFish, eHarmony and Match.com, there are advantages to meeting people through family and friends.

Got a friend you want to set up? Here’s some really great advice. 

Looking for Love? This one’s for you.  

Like I said, online dating sites exist and they do work. They are capable of helping you find thousands of people you would be unlikely to come across in your daily life – I happen to know a lot of married couples who’ve met that way, and there’s not one thing wrong with it. You just have to be careful, and I mean REALLY careful. 

Interesting fact: 1/3 of recently married couples met online. 

My only other advice on that one is don’t spend too much money on it (but then you know me, I’m a cheap-skate!). 

But if you’re looking for something a little more traditional, you might want to consider getting set up by your friends or family members – or maybe even a co-worker. 

After all, the people closest to you might have some pretty valuable insight into who would be a compatible partner for you. Here are seven strategies to get your friends to set you up on a successful date (that really works!). 

Get the Hookup: 7 Surefire Strategies to Get Your Friends to Set You Up on a Successful Date

  1. Advertise your availability. Taking out a billboard would be extreme, but it’s okay to let your loved ones know you want to meet new suitors. That way, they can be on the lookout for you.
  2. Let go of expectations. We’re often unclear about how to build a lasting relationship. Relax and enjoy each other’s company on a date. If you’re compatible, the chemistry may emerge gradually.
  3. Talk face to face. Getting together for a cup of coffee beats texting when it comes to forming a more accurate impression of someone. Focus on real world interactions.
  4. Behave courteously. Etiquette matters online. It’s even more important when you have mutual friends. Smile, make eye contact, and speak kindly.
  5. Decide on a second date. The only thing you need to figure out on most first dates is whether you would like to see each other at least one more time. If you find someone appealing, let them know.
  6. Hire a professional. You may also want to try working with a paid matchmaking service. Browse for options online or in your neighborhood. Study contracts carefully before signing.
  7. Try again. A happy relationship is worth searching for. Express your gratitude to your friends so they’ll keep sharing their contacts. Read about relationships and communication skills so you’ll be ready for love wherever you encounter it.

If finding a romantic partner is important to you, look for love in multiple places. Find your next date over the internet or through your next door neighbor. It can be fun and rewarding to bring couples together whether you’re arranging a match or being set up yourself.